The Pitfalls of Comparison
We've all been there. Scrolling through social media, glancing at a colleague's success, or even hearing a friend's achievements can sometimes trigger a cascade of comparison. It's a natural human tendency but one that fuels insecurity and doubt. When we compare ourselves to others, we're often measuring our behind-the-scenes against their highlight reel, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy and despair.
The Power of Admiration
Emotional Intelligence teaches us to recognize and regulate our emotions. It encourages us to shift from comparison, a negative emotional response, to admiration. When we admire someone, we acknowledge their achievements without belittling our own journey. This shift is not just a change in thought, but a transformation in feeling. Admiration ignites inspiration, possibility, and most importantly, enhances our self-regard.
How to Make the Shift
1. Recognize the Trigger: Start by becoming aware of when you're comparing yourself to others. Notice the emotions and thoughts that accompany this.
2. Reframe Your Thoughts: Instead of thinking, "Why can't I be like them?" shift to, "What can I learn from them?" Turn envy into a learning opportunity.
3. Celebrate Your Own Journey: Remember, your journey is unique. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small it may seem.
4. Express Admiration: If someone truly inspires you, let them know. Expressing admiration can build connections and open doors to mutual growth.
5. Cultivate Gratitude: Practice gratitude for your own achievements and qualities. This will help shift your focus from what you lack to what you have.
Be who you came to be.
As you practice this shift, remember my motto: "be who you came to be." Your journey is uniquely yours, a path that no one else can walk. Every experience you have is crafting you into the person you're meant to become.
Let's commit to this shift from comparison to admiration and watch as our perspectives and lives transform. After all, the only person you should strive to be better than is who you were yesterday.
Be who you came to be. LOVE will guide you.