Let YOUR Big Ask Out
What’s the one thing you need to ASK for right now?
More money? More help? More flexibility? More visibility? More purpose?
We all have a Big Ask inside of us. But here’s the thing… most of us don’t say it out loud.
Why?
Because asking makes us feel vulnerable. Because we don’t want to be a burden. Because we think we should already know. Because we assume people will just know what we need.
But here’s the truth: people don’t know what they don’t know. And they won’t know what you want unless you ask for it.
Even I hesitate sometimes.
I still catch myself sipping the wrong coffee because I don’t want to send it back. The pleaser in me whispers, “Don’t make it weird.”
But my husband always reminds me, “People want to get it right. Just ask.”
The Data Says:
70% of people who ask for a raise… get one. (Payscale)
Employees who never negotiate earn up to $1.5M less over their lifetime.
(Harvard Business Review)77% of people are willing to help—but only 25% actually get asked.
(Harvard Business School)
So here's your emotional intelligence challenge this week:
Identify your Big Ask.
Say it out loud.
Then go make it.
Emotional intelligence gives you the self-regard to know you’re worth it, the assertiveness to speak up, and the empathy to ask in a way that builds connection, not conflict. Because the bigger the ask, the bigger the win. So I’ll ask again: What’s the one thing you need to ask for right now
And here’s my big, super uncomfortable ask... but I'm doing it!!
MY BIG ASK:
My new book and journal are on pre-order!!
It’s not a self-help book telling you to fix what’s broken—
You’re not broken. You’re ready to rise.
Inside, you’ll find the emotional intelligence secrets to:
Speak up
Own your value
Ask for what you truly want
And become who you came to be
Oh—and it doubles as a gorgeous coffee table book (hello, gold under the cover ).
My Big Ask: If my message has ever made you pause, reflect, or step into your power—will you preorder Be Who You Came to Be today? It’s the next step in our journey together.