Be wary of oversimplified advice
You’ve probably heard the saying, “How you do anything is how you do everything.”
Sounds deep, right? But let’s be real.... it’s not.
I hate doing laundry. Sometimes clean clothes sit in the basket for days. That doesn’t mean I’m uncommitted, inconsistent, or incapable. Because here’s what does get my energy, attention, and follow-through:
→ My kids.
→ My marriage.
→ My career.
→ My clients.
→ My family & friends.
Quotes like this don’t build character, they ignite self-sabotaging beliefs.
They whisper, “If you didn’t fold the guest towels, you must not be serious about your life.”
Please. That’s not wisdom... that’s shame wrapped in a slogan.
Yes, how we do some things can reflect how we do important things. But not everything carries equal weight.
Could I fold the towels right out of the dryer and feel more organized? Sure. Would it change my life? Probably not.
But that’s the beauty of reflection - use it to ask:
If I dedicated more time or energy to this, would it truly improve my life? If the answer is no, let it go. If it’s yes, shift accordingly.
And here’s the kicker: I love cooking. Like, from scratch, pour-a-glass-of-wine, lose-track-of-time kind of cooking. But baking? Nope. I’d rather hire someone or buy it premade.
That doesn’t mean I take shortcuts, it means I make smart, intentional choices with my time. We all get 24 hours. Spend your time on what fuels you, not what drains you.
Let this be your reminder: Focus your time on what matters most.
Quotes like this fuel hustle culture, not healthy habits. And hustle culture isn’t a badge of honor - it’s a fast track to burnout.
So here’s how to rewire your thinking:
1. Spot the sabotage.
When a quote triggers guilt or not-enoughness, ask: Is this helping me? Or hijacking my self-worth?
2. Redefine your metrics.
Folding clothes ≠ commitment. Look at how you show up in the moments that actually matter. That’s where your truth lives.
3. Give grace to the gaps.
We all have areas where we slack. That doesn’t cancel our strengths - it confirms we’re human.
The real work isn’t perfecting everything. It’s prioritizing what matters and releasing what doesn’t.
That’s self-leadership. That’s emotional intelligence. That’s being who you came to be.
Your reflection this week:
→ Where have you been judging yourself for the wrong things?
→ Where are you showing up in powerful ways that deserve more credit?
→ If you gave more time to something, would it fuel your growth or just feed the guilt?
Let’s talk about it reply and share yours. Or forward this to someone who needs the reminder: You’re doing better than you think.
I'm dropping a podcast this Friday talking about this and debunking several more quotes–you don't want to miss it!
